Tips For Older Brothers

The bond between brother and sister is stronger than ever these days. Unfortunately, sibling conflict is becoming more frequent, which causes sibling fights. Sibling fights can lead to a lot of problems, such as broken family, broken home, and even drug abuse. Thus, it is very important to learn how to deal with your sibling’s struggles without getting into sibling fights. Here are a few tips for you to follow.

It is important to accept your older brother as he is. Do not try to change him and become your “big brother.” Adopting the attitude of treating your brother as your “big brother” will create more conflict. The older brother will likely help the younger sibling to interact better with other family members. He/she will also introduce the younger sibling to new friends, will demonstrate it how to properly play with other kids, and will help it when necessary.

Be patient with your older brother. Do not act surprised whenever he does something good or he does something that makes you proud. This will build up your respect for your siblings. You will begin to develop a good relationship with your older brother.

Do not criticize your siblings. Comparing them to each other will only make you feel inferior and bad about yourself. A good brother must be complimented on his good traits, no matter how small they are.

Let your brother know that you love and appreciate him. Even if you do not have anything in particular to give your brother, simply saying it out loud and often will show him how much you value him and appreciate him as a sibling. Showing your siblings how much you appreciate them and how important they are to you is one way of showing your brother that you love and support him as his older brother. He will naturally want to reciprocate the love and support.

Role models are what our society looks up to. Older brothers can be great role models to younger siblings, so it is important that you get to know your older brother. It is possible to show your brother how to be a good brother and follow his example. You may be able to develop a close relationship with your brother if you spend time with him and understand him better. So, do not hesitate to seek advice and guidance from your brothers.