In many cultures, fathers are seen as providers. This is because they make the money, bring it home, and take care of their families. But there is more to being a father than simply providing. It is also about disciplining your children and teaching them important life lessons. It is about being a role model and showing your children how to be strong, confident, and independent. It is about loving your family and putting them first, even when it means going above and beyond your own personal comfort levels.
While anyone can have a baby, it takes courage to be a father. Often, men experience mixed emotions as they take on this new responsibility. They feel pride and joy in their new roles, but they may also struggle with feelings of anxiety about losing their independence. Having a child requires them to give up nights and weekends that they previously considered their own. It can be challenging to find a balance between work and parenting, but it is crucial for the health of your family.
A father is the one who checks under the bed for monsters, holds his kids during a thunderstorm, and listens to their problems without judgment. He is the rock they can cling to when things are tough and encourages them to be their best. He is the one who sets a high standard of what it means to be holy, and he is there to help them stand firm in their faith.
When a man is involved in the pregnancy and labor of his children, it can lead to a stronger bond between him and the baby. It can even have an effect on the child once they are born: Studies show that children who are raised by a father or male figure who is active in their development are more likely to be self-confident, have higher grades, and do well in school.
Those same kids are also less likely to have behavioral issues, skip class, or drop out of school. Moreover, they are twice as likely to get married and have healthy relationships as adults.
As you go through this journey of fatherhood, remember that God didn’t plan this for by accident. He gave you these sons and daughters on purpose, and He knows exactly what they need from you. He wants you to be a great dad, and He is there for you to help along the way. Remember, the Bible says, “Be holy, for I am holy” (Leviticus 11:45). Keep these words in front of you to help you define and live out your fatherhood. And to all the dads out there, never stop trying to be your best. You can do it! And your kids will thank you for it. Just don’t forget to laugh! —David Hart, director and screenwriter of Fatherhood, based on the memoir Two Kisses for Maddy by Matt Logelin.